We were both in relationships and happy but that chance meeting has turned our lives upside down.
I couldn’t take my eyes off this good-looking man and he seemed attracted to me too.
When he returned the following day, the spark was obvious.He waited for my shift to end so he could walk me home. He then invited me out for lunch.
He’s 39 and said he was married, with a teenage son.He tied the knot at 20 when his wife got pregnant and he told me he felt it was a big mistake.
I told him I lived with my partner. I’m 36 and my partner is 40.We went out for lunch while my partner was away on a business trip.
I knew it might end up with us being romantically linked but I couldn’t resist.He picked me up and we drove out to a country hotel, where we had a wonderful meal.
He then excused himself from the table and booked us a room. We both knew what we wanted. He held out his hand for me to go with him and it seemed natural to go upstairs.
We couldn’t get each other’s clothes off quick enough. It was frenzied, loving, intoxicating sex. I thought I’d died and gone to heaven. He said he felt the same.
We’ve been seeing each other for months now. He gets upset when we talk about the future and if we can have one together.
He says he can’t leave his wife as she would be devastated — and I know my partner would feel the same.
We have great lives apart but we know we would rather be together all the time.
It seems impossible to do what we want to do without our loved ones getting hurt.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s not unusual to have your head turned when you are married but it’s whether you act on it that matters.
Neither of you has behaved well but your lover has been clear that he won’t leave his wife and son for you.
You will end up feeling better if you have some pride in yourself and tell this guy you can’t be a marriage wrecker – and don’t want to disrupt what you have at home either.